I’m tired of the mommy wars. I QUIT!
All these things make my head spin!
These are just some of the choices out there for moms to make and it seems no matter what she chooses, someone views it as wrong, inferior, or just plain “not what I would choose for my child”.
Women are pitted against women and instead of supporting and encouraging one another we seem to be finding ways to ‘one-up’ each other to make ourselves feel satisfied with our own decisions.
I’m tired of it.
Exhausted of it.
This isn’t the life God has called me to!
…and there are moments I think of that humble me greatly.
I wonder how many women I’ve unintentionally hurt when I would speak with self-satisfaction of choices I’d made that benefited my family. Did I cut into her confidence of a decision that she made differently?
On this side of loss I’ve learned just how little everything matters outside of my obedience and service to my Savior.
If I am am going to speak with passion about something, it better be something that will truly make an Eternal impact!
Admittedly, I’m still very much in a learning phase of “speaking the truth in love”. I pray that His grace covers my areas of human weakness, because I am quite far from perfect.
A couple of weeks ago there was a viral video passed around on Facebook that another woman used as a platform for public criticism. It made me sad to see something meant for fun used to shame a woman. When chatting with a friend I mentioned how different our culture would be if we stopped shaking our fingers and started coming along side one another to encourage!
I don’t want to wage war with other women, I want to be an encourager.
THAT is what we’re called to. He wants us to be used to build into each others lives, to build each other up, not tear down. How will we show the world the grace of Christ if all we do is put other people down?
Thank you so much for sharing. I will absolutely join you!!! This was perfectly put …. for me anyway. 😉 Love you.
Thanks Lau. I think the challenge is worth it. 🙂
I will join you! You are doing a great job!
Thanks Jen. As always, I’m working on it. Glad the Lord is patient. <3
So much truth…learning to be gentle of everyone’s heart is so hard sometimes! Our pastor often says “if the bible doesn’t say it, we shouldn’t either!” The world tends to get passionate about things without eternal value. I think as Christians we (hopefully!) get passionate about things WITH eternal value, but “issues” are still never more important than hearts and souls. Thanks for sharing this today–I often tell my children, “it’s not even about what you said, it’s HOW you said it.” So true for us as adults too!
Yes, the mommy wars between Christian moms are the most heart-breaking. Much of it really is extra-biblical teachings and not gospel issues. We really need to work to lay that aside so that we’re free to encourage each other. And you’re so right, sometimes it isn’t the words, it’s how they’re said and too often people are ‘saying’ things over the internet that they never would in a face to face interaction. I really hope the tides turn soon.
Amen, I will join you! It has been on my heart too. Thank you for posting. Tara.
Thank you Tara. As women we can be such amazing resources to each other when we put the nonsense aside. <3
I also see what you see in this world of ours and agree with you whole heartily. Like you said even the simple, most personal choices we make as a mother for our children are judged. Sigh! Very sad when you think about it. I remember when I had my children and I chose to breastfeed for years VS months, or when I decided on Homeschooling my children, but chose a secular curriculum (Time4Learning) instead of a Christian one(I am Christian BTW). It’s like no matter my choices, I got that “finger” shaked at me. Of course, I had to just trust that I was doing what was best and prayed for those who judged me. I am also not saying I have not had those thoughts about other too. Just the day I was in Claire’s ( a accessory store in the mall). This woman had her 9 month baby in there to get her ears pierced ( I believe in allowing my children to decided things like putting holes in their ears when they are old enough to tell me they want them). Anyways, the poor baby was screaming and the “teenager” with the piercing gun was not what I would considered someone I would feel comfortable with my own child. Part of me wanted to say something, but I knew that my way may be perfect for me, but that this woman had the right to decided what she thought was right for own family. So, I just smiled, said a prayer for the baby and went on with my shopping. Thanks for sharing this blog post. I enjoyed reading it 🙂
Thank you for your thoughtful comment Keri. It certainly isn’t an easy thing to do, our natural tendency is to remark and compare. When we are intentional to avoid that pitfall our interactions become so much more meaningful and rewarding to all parties involved. Motherhood does seem to invite criticism from many directions. It’s such a challenging season on it’s own, we surely don’t need any added stress. 🙂